A Sorry Apology Means Very Little
It occurs to me that many people think the latest round of public apologies are acceptable because you do not know what it means to truly apologize.
Some of your apologies are like Lena Dunham’s- constant and careless smh. You keep apologizing because you’re an emotional terrorist who doesn’t think about how your words and actions impact other people. You just go about life like a bull in a china shop breaking things and breaking people with no regard or real remorse. Even your drawn out apology is self centered. You think about how much you learned from stepping on the broken glass, NOT about the precious things you shattered or finding a way to mend them or make amends. Every “I’m sorry” means less and less because you have the interpersonal skills of a fetus.
Some of your apologies are like Kevin Hart’s- forced and facetious. You’re not actually sorry because the issue doesn’t impact you. You beg off with “It was a long time ago”, “It wasn’t that serious”, or “I already addressed it” when what you really want to say is, “I don’t care”. You’re too comfortable or scared or privileged or brainwashed to question your beliefs and actions and how they might be hurtful. You don’t see anything wrong with your actions because you have the self awareness of a cardboard box. You’re not sorry. You admit you’re not sorry. You don’t want to apologize. You just want to end the argument.
And way too many of your apologies are like Offset’s- too little, too late, too short, and totally miscalculated. You’re only sorry now because you finally placed the straw that broke that camel’s back. Your apology doesn’t even acknowledge the camel’s pain or ALL the straws you threw on them before this one. You just miss having someone else to carry your load. You’re probably used to f*cking, finessing, and financing your way out of things and when that won’t work you fumble around embarrassing everybody involved. You think your quick “I’m sorry bruh” is sufficient because you have the emotional range of a cucumber. You need to understand mature adult relationships and what you are willing to give in one before you hop on someone else and break them too.
And the saddest part of it all is because these are the only “apologies” we’ve ever received, they are all we can conceive as possible. We continue to give and accept sorry apologies, because too few of us have seen atonement or amends.